LEARN HOW TO HANDLE A LOVING DISAPPOINTMENT (WOMEN ONLY)

Any woman who loves with all her heart, at some point in her life has suffered a disappointment in love, and that is very painful when you give all of you in a relationship. All who have been in this situation before, know this pain. I urge people that pass through this time that not always blame others, you might also have some blame on this. The exact and magic formula or antidote to this evil has not been invented yet. Every broken heart is different and probably also the cure for it. But there are premises and tips that many women have been implementing and they have worked on them. This is the collection of the best steps to take away that little pain in the heart.

1. DO NOT OPEN THE WOUND MORE 

As women, we are experts in making the aforementioned is present in our minds, so we dedicate ourselves to listen to songs that remind him or see the text messages he sent to our phones, and why not? to see the gifts he gave us at some time (if these have not been thrown away previously, of course). Big mistake! When we are sad and we hear romantic songs, we are opening the way to our state of mind rather than improves, gets worse. We become melancholic and begin to remember all these beautiful moments that we spent with the referred one.

Solution: Listen to upbeat music that fills you with energy and you won't  remember him. It is better to not hear sad or romantic music for at least one month. But believe it or not listen to this type of songs influences more in increasing our sadness.

2. CRY AND CRY

It is important that after having had a disappointment in love, you give yourself a time to cry,  to relieve you. The heart is not made of  iron and has a right to spill a few tears. The important thing here is to allow a short time relief. Otherwise you will have accumulated all that sadness, that in the end it won't be  good for you. It is not good  to block feelings or emotions, it is preferable to accept them and you'll see that over time they will be erased.

Solution: Find a place where you feel comfortable, and let off steam. If you are one of those that need someone to mourn, then call your mom or your best friend, or finally to whom you are close and ask them to talk with you, that you need to speak with someone, you'll see that the tears will fall easily, and then feel  you've taken a load off. If you prefer to mourn alone, then go to your room and take a time to throw away the sadness crying. Ah! And don't think that crying is a sign of weakness. On the contrary, the one who cries  recognizes her feelings and is not afraid to express them.

3. THE WORLD IS NOT FINISHED WITHOUT HIM

Often, much of the pain we have after a heartbreak, is caused by the thought: "I can not live without him", "My life is worth nothing if I can't have him". And the truth is we can not rely on your partner to be happy, they must be part of our happiness and not the center, not the whole.

Solution: Take away those completely dependent thoughts from us that do not make us free. Do not think he is not the only man, sooner or later you'll find another, but better then different. Do not get stuck in your house, get out and have fun, go to movies, eat something, meet new people, and when you least expect you'll have met another man who catches your attention and interests you.

4. TIME

Believe it or not, as time passes and your mind is on other things, you will notice that the pain is diminishing. If you've had a long relationship or fairly important to you, you will take time to heal the wounds, do not expect results overnight. The important thing is that do not stand with folded hands and put your best to forget and recover the man who broke your heart.

Solution: Take your mind on other things, family, work, school, friends, hobbies preferred. Stay locked in your room will not do much. And above all, be patient, time helps, but when you know how to use to its advantages. Otherwise, it will take years and years and you'll keep thinking about him.

5. STAY AS FRIENDS

It is a big lie that, after having finished the relation, your ex- and you  decide to stay as friends. Except in the case that both already see as such and only have an affection attached. But since this is not the case, avoid to stay as friends and become the confidant of your ex.

Solution: Whatever the reason you  ended the relationship, both have to accept that it's over. And it's wise to take time to form a friendship. Get away from his environment and from him. Otherwise it will be harder to forget him.

6. A NAIL TAKES OUT A NAIL

If you want to get rid of this love sorrow, and better option does not occur to you that to begin going out with another man,  well then, you'd better go dismissing this, because if it is true that in some cases it works so that a nail takes out another nail, in most cases it does not. Do not try to cover a wound, it is better to cure it and let it cicatrice well.

Solution: If you have anyone in your mind you think  can help you to forget your ex, better think about that person, and consider that you are no using him to remind your ex. Think you can get hurt. The best thing to do is distract your mind on other things and enjoy time to yourself, before you get back to start another relationship.

7. TALK TO HIS FRIENDS

You know nothing of him and the first thing you do is talk to his friends to ask how he's doing, whether he is happy or not. Suddenly you find that he is already dating another woman. And again you break into tears. You were quiet until it occurred you to talk to his best friend in search of 'news'.

Solution: Do not be a masochist, love yourself and value your peace. Avoid talking to people who know him and  can tell you something about him, because maybe you can get hurt with what they can say.

Finally, you are not alone, you probably have a lot of people around you who love you and appreciate you. And if it is any consolation, you're not the only one in this world who has or has had a disappointment in love. You can overcome it, and if it did not work this time, do not lose hope that the next one will work. No one said love is easy. Move on!

I hope these tips  are useful  when a relationship  comes to an end, especially for those young  girls who are going through the stage of falling in love and who believe that the world will fall off if they break with their boyfriends. Other tips would be different when there are husband and children involved, which would be material for another article.

Namaste.

LUNA NUEVA